How to have more influence as an introvert… ?

I was at a women’s business retreat last weekend and I met a lot of interesting women. When I introduced myself as an introvert coach, several of them approached me on our break to ask me just HOW I help introverts.

When people ask me that, I often respond with a set of questions: Are you an introvert? and What are you most challenged by as an introverted woman in business?  

I am truly curious about the challenges women face. After all, I am one of them and I am not yet challenge-free. I have however, seen a commonality among us. 

For example, as I listened to these women, they brought up what I often hear from my quiet and introverted friends: they would like to have more influence and authority in their given fields or interests, yet often struggle when given the opportunity (for many reasons) and often end up at a loss for words.

I always say that communicating effectively (and as a result, having greater influence) requires PRESENCE (see Nov. 2019 blog post HERE). 

Many of the smartest people fall short of their full potential—not because they lack intelligence or technical proficiency, but because they haven’t developed the presence to connect, influence, and communicate with clarity and credibility.

Last year, I had an epiphany. ? 

It was late at night, I couldn’t sleep, and I was lying in bed thinking about my clients and introverted friends. I was thinking about how to best serve my people. I kept asking myself: What do I know NOW that I wish I knew 10 years ago?

As I ruminated on that question over and over, it suddenly came to me: There are 6 skills that I have practiced over and over again, and that I believe every introvert must MASTER, in order to lead with power and authority in their given field. I was so excited when I got that divine download that I leaped out of bed and started writing all of it down.

You’ll be hearing more about these 6 master skills in the coming weeks but in case you haven’t guessed it, the first and # 1 skill to master is PRESENCE. 

By mastering the subtleties of voice, body, energy, and message alignment, introverts can emerge with a commanding presence that enables them to demonstrate a level of confidence that matches their subject matter, expertise, and intellectual capacity. Introverts can effectively present themselves and their ideas more powerfully, in any capacity, at all levels with this skill.

Exciting, right?

I know that for me, working on my presence as an introvert has made a world of difference (remember I was painfully shy and socially anxious too!). I have become really good at, and finely attuned to, my own source of personal strength and power and it all happened as a result of developing my presence as an introvert.

This year, my plan is to teach these 6 Master Skills to as many introverts as possible. It is imperative to learn these 6 skills if you want to make a difference in the world you live in, in the space you occupy, or better said, the space you get to claim as your own. 

If you are interested in being in the know about these 6 Master Skills, get on the list HERE. You’ll be hearing all about them soon!

In the meantime, stay original my friends:) ?

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